One Bar or Bat Mitzvah Card, Signed by Everyone Who Loves Them
One link. Every mazel tov, in one place.
Ready in a minute · free for up to 10 messages · no account
Between the Torah portion, the party planning, and the out-of-town relatives, it's easy for the personal part to get lost. Start a Bar or Bat Mitzvah card, send the link to family, friends, and community members near and far, and let everyone add their own note, photo, or GIF at their own pace. When the day comes, scroll through every message together in full-screen presentation mode — a keepsake that means a lot more than a store-bought card everyone rushed to sign in the coat room.
What to Write in a Bar or Bat Mitzvah Card
Somewhere between "mazel tov" and genuine advice is where the best notes land. A few starting points people actually use:
Mazel tov! Watching you read from the Torah today, all grown up, made your grandmother and me tear up more than we'd like to admit.
— Debbie
Congrats on becoming a teenager and a Torah scholar in the same week. Show-off.
— Josh
Sixty-some years ago I had my own Bar Mitzvah, and I promise you the nerves fade fast. Enjoy every second, kiddo.
— Marty
You nailed your haftarah better than I remember any of my own words that day. So proud of you, cousin.
— Rachel
Watching you grow into this funny, thoughtful person has been one of the best parts of knowing your family. Mazel tov to all of you.
— Diane
You're still annoying, but today you were also kind of amazing up there. Love you. Mazel tov.
— Sam
How it works
Create the card
Their name, the occasion, and you're set. No account to create.
Share and follow up
By email, Teams or text. Set a share date and we'll nudge the people who haven't signed yet, for you.
Give it in style
Send the gift link or launch presentation mode: the notes scroll by one at a time, full screen.
Free for up to 10 messages. Unlimited card for $5.99 CAD, a single payment, no subscription.
Frequently asked questions
- How do we get family and friends to actually sign it?
- Share the link by text, email, or in the family group chat — there's nothing to download and no account to set up, so even grandparents and out-of-town cousins can add their line in under a minute. You can watch messages come in as people sign, right up until the big day.
- Can we keep it a surprise until the ceremony?
- Yes. The card lives at a private link that's never listed publicly, so it stays just between the people you send it to. Reveal it however you like — read it aloud at the kiddush, hand over a tablet, or open it together at home afterward.
- What does a Bar or Bat Mitzvah card cost?
- It's free for up to 10 messages, which covers a lot of small family celebrations. If you want the whole extended family, school friends, and community involved, unlocking unlimited signers is a single $5.99 CAD payment — no subscription, ever.
- Can Bons Mots remind people who haven't signed yet?
- Set the date you want the card ready by and Bons Mots automatically emails anyone who hasn't signed, a few days ahead and again the day before. It's the easiest way to make sure Great-Aunt Sylvie doesn't forget in the whirlwind of planning.
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